How to Get Over a Breakup in 6 Steps

How to Get Over a Breakup in 6 Steps

How to Get Over a Breakup

We’ve all been there.  Maybe things were rough.  Or maybe your it was unexpected. The moments right after a breakup can be brutal.  If you’re reading this, chances are, you’re experiencing one right now.  That’s why we’ve compiled six steps to help you get over a relationship that just ended.  Everyone is different, and there is no formula or exact steps to follow, but these are sure to push you in the right direction.

1. Let Out Emotions

Emotions and thoughts race through your head immediately after a breakup.  You can’t always control how you feel, and that is totally alright.  Feelings can’t always be swept under a rug, and keeping them in can be even more painful.  Do what you need to do to let your emotions out.  Cry if you need to, or even yell into your pillow.  Just make sure not to hurt anyone else in the process.

2. Cut Communications With Your Ex Boyfriend

It can be very difficult to see an ex boyfriend after a breakup. He might try to text or call you, just to see how things are going.  You might be over-analyzing every interaction with them.  If you are set on moving on, it might be best to cut all communications to avoid seeing your ex.  Avoid logging into social media if that’s what it takes.  You can even go as far as to block them if it was really that bad.  Snapchat can be particularly difficult to avoid.  I’ve had many friends go crazy over an ex boyfriend’s snapchat stories trying to figure out what they’re up to, or if they’re thinking about them.

This is very difficult if you have many mutual friends.  Friend groups frequently “take sides” after a breakup.  This will cause you to lose more friends in the process.  Stay away from the group in general if you need.  If they’re your lunch group, try eating with a different group, or eat at the library while doing homework.

Some alone-time can be helpful after a break up

3. Talk About the Breakup Out Loud

Your friends will always be there for you.  You comfort them when they’re feeling down, and now it is your turn.  Plan a fun meetup and talk about your relationship.  Getting feedback from your friends can be very comforting.  They can share their personal experiences with their relationships and draw parallels.

If your friends are not readily available, consider talking with your family.  Your parents or a sibling will help.  They have to live in the same house as you, so they will be there for you.  Even talking to a dog or pet can help.  Saying things out loud helps us actualize them, even if the pet does not speak back.  They are excellent listeners.

4. Do Your Favorite Things

Now that you’re over the initial emotions of the breakup, try doing things to distract you from the situation.  Watch your favorite movies, listen to your favorite musician, and eat your favorite food.  Go binge on some netflix comedies.  Doing things you like will help you stop thinking about your ex boyfriend.  If you live away from your family, consider paying them a visit.  You don’t have to talk about your breakup with them if you don’t want to!

5. Try New Things

After doing the things that comfort you, try doing activities that are new to you.  Trying new activities will engage a different part of your brain, and you will be exposed to new people.  This new exposure will bring new thoughts, and help you move on from the past relationships.

Consider using apps such as “meetup” to find niche enthusiasts near you.  Meetup is an app where you can find gatherings of people with similar interests.  This is a great way to meet new people and try new things without using a dating app.  This is most effective if you live in a larger city.

meetup after breakup
Meetup can help you meet new people and fun things!

If you can’t find any interests, consider volunteering!  Volunteering can be incredibly rewarding.  It feels good to do good!

6. Move On From the Relationship

It sometimes takes months or years to fully get over a relationship.  The final step is starting the next chapter in your life.  Whether you met someone new at your newfound hobbies, or you’re enjoying the single life, look forward to your bright future!  Read our blog post about what to do if your ex boyfriend still wants to be friends after breaking up.



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